tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3686763113467094784.post6280129135794999686..comments2023-08-18T05:12:26.987-04:00Comments on Holistic Moms Network: When a Jar of Tomato Sauce is EnoughHolistic Moms Directorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04644307724358476902noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3686763113467094784.post-22580790238850471092011-12-07T15:42:22.926-05:002011-12-07T15:42:22.926-05:00I am not here to judge...I have a 6 yr old boy and...I am not here to judge...I have a 6 yr old boy and an infant son as well and I've got a long way to grow as a parent, just want to share another perspective! I have to be honest...I don't think your guilt is because of negative self talk at all in this instance, i think it may be because you made a choice you feel deep down somewhere was not the best one for your child. I don't know the circumstances behind your son's crying/tantrums that you described. I am extremely affectionate and patient with my children but I know dinner is not only an important meal but time together and routine. That routine and communion is maybe just what your son needed to get him back to feeling in control of his feelings. Routine at home, especially dinner, is a big way to pass your affection, love, quality attention, strength to your family. It's an invaluable tool! Life goes on whether you want to do it or not, letting them makes the choice on their own after giving them your ears, wisdom, affection & their options then letting them see how much better it feels to make that choice to keep moving forward (instead of focusing energy on what doesn't make us happy) is SO empowering for them! It might feel good or easier to just hold them all night long like we always have but teaching them that they have the power to choose more of what they do want is nothing to feel guilty about! It a wonderful tool that can be more comforting than 143757886 hugslittlebirdmommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07310617285186692344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3686763113467094784.post-44126674388073273302011-12-07T15:41:54.276-05:002011-12-07T15:41:54.276-05:00I am not here to judge...I have a 6 yr old boy and...I am not here to judge...I have a 6 yr old boy and an infant son as well and I've got a long way to grow as a parent, just want to share another perspective! I have to be honest...I don't think your guilt is because of negative self talk at all in this instance, i think it may be because you made a choice you feel deep down somewhere was not the best one for your child. I don't know the circumstances behind your son's crying/tantrums that you described. I am extremely affectionate and patient with my children but I know dinner is not only an important meal but time together and routine. That routine and communion is maybe just what your son needed to get him back to feeling in control of his feelings. Routine at home, especially dinner, is a big way to pass your affection, love, quality attention, strength to your family. It's an invaluable tool! Life goes on whether you want to do it or not, letting them makes the choice on their own after giving them your ears, wisdom, affection & their options then letting them see how much better it feels to make that choice to keep moving forward (instead of focusing energy on what doesn't make us happy) is SO empowering for them! It might feel good or easier to just hold them all night long like we always have but teaching them that they have the power to choose more of what they do want is nothing to feel guilty about! It a wonderful tool that can be more comforting than 143757886 hugs sometimes!littlebirdmommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07310617285186692344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3686763113467094784.post-19164520401734208282011-12-07T15:14:10.747-05:002011-12-07T15:14:10.747-05:00THANK YOU!!! OMG!! This is exactly what I struggl...THANK YOU!!! OMG!! This is exactly what I struggle with daily. That witching hour is a hot mess. Thank you for enlightening me and relieving some of that "mommy guilt"!Sundancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12040401121548788976noreply@blogger.com